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Justice Arrives Like a Thunderbolt!

I’m Proud to be an American

Gay MarriageDo you have any idea how long it has been since I’ve been able to say those words?  Too long.

Too long because I am a gay man who has been told for all of his 52 years by the country where I am a citizen that I am not worthy of the same rights that my fellow citizens enjoy.

Too long because under the law I had not been worthy of equality.

Well today I am.

The President says it beautifully:

I am proud that this man is our President.  He is the kind of leader that all of our government officials should strive to emulate, demonstrating time after time unwavering resolve to work for all the citizens he represents and doing so with style, elegance, eloquence and dignity.

I wish we did not have a constitutional term limit on Presidents.  I am proud that I voted for this man four times: in both presidential primaries and in both national elections and I would vote for him again.

Tears of joy, happiness, and relief

Listening to President Obama speak, I broke down into tears.  Literally.  I had to pause the video because the image was going all blurry.

Even as I type this I feel them welling up again in my eyes.  Tears of joy.  Tears of happiness. Tears of relief.

Unless you’ve been a part of a minority and denied your rights you may be able to empathize but you’ll never be able to fully understand what today’s decision means to LGBT people.

Tears of joy are a rare thing.  I’ve only done it once before, when I and my dance partner won the World Championship in Couples Country Western Dance.  Today marks occasion number two.

But joy it is.

Dear Canada, I won’t be applying for political asylum

Canadian Gay Flag

Seriously.  If the Supreme Court had not upheld gay marriage, I would have tried to move to Canada.

Although I realize it would not have been practical nor would it have likely happened, the thought of moving to Canada and becoming a Canadian Citizen more than once has crossed my mind.

Why would I want to stay in a country where the government says “You are not entitled to the same rights that other citizens get?”

Today’s decision on Gay Marriage and yesterday’s decision on the Affordable Care and Patient Protection Act makes me proud to be an American again.

Just for the record… I am 100% open to a Cute Canadian Fella sweeping me off my feet and asking me to marry him!  I’d move with you back up north!  Woo Hoo!

I am single ya know!  😉  Hint.  Hint.  Hint.  Spread the word.  Click those share buttons my loyal readers!  Help a brother out!  😉

Now What?

From a practical stand point, nothing changes for me, not immediately, and not in my daily life.

However, dozens of my friends though are now free to be married.  Dozens more who already are married now are married in all 50 states.

But most of all, from an emotional and psychological and social stand point, EVERYTHING is now different.  Because now my country says that I am entitled to the same rights as every other citizen.  That is a world changing thing.  Yes indeed

“…justice arrives like a thunderbolt” 

Amen Mr. President.  Amen.

And… should I meet “Mr. Right” I can now get married to him.  Wow.  I guess I’d better start looking! Woot!  Uh-huh!

Hmmm why do I feel like that cartoon character in Roger Rabbit that screeches “A Maaaaaannnnn!!!!”?

So, everyone is officially invited to join the “Find Tony a Husband Squad”  — It will be cool.  We’ll get t-shirts made up and everything.  😉

Sadly, the grumbling has already started. There is already, and there will be more ranting and raving about this, from people who feel threatened.

Some of them (like the Governor of Texas – SHAME ON YOU!) should know better.  Check out his disgusting display in this press release:  I’ve already called and emailed his office to voice my opinion.  If you are a Texas resident I invite you to do the same.  Here are the contact info:

gay wedding topperFor those with legitimate well meaning questions and/or concerns about “How does this affect me?” well I point you to this factual, if tongue in cheek, post:

A 30-Second Guide to How the Gay Marriage Ruling Affects You  (Note on 6-28-2015 — there was a typo in the URL. I fixed it. T he link should work now)

which sums things up quite nicely.

Life is good.  Today is an amazing day.  I feel transcendent.

See ya on the dance floor



The Stonewall Book Awards: An Introduction and Overview

The Stonewall Book award: an introduction and overviewThe Stonewall Book Award

The Stonewall Book Awards are presented each year to English-language books of exceptional quality, worth and merit, relating to the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) experience.

Patience & Sarah / by Isabel MillerThe very first award, originally called the “Gay Book Award” was presented in 1971 to a book titled Patience and Sarah / by Isabel Miller.

The award is presented by the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Round Table (GLBTRT) which is a division of the American Library Association.  A committee of librarians review the books, drawing from a pool of candidates which were published the year prior to the announcement date.

The name of the “Stonewall Book Awards” was chosen to honor the historical significance of the 1969 Stonewall Riots, an event which is now recognized as marking the beginning of the modern Gay Rights Movement.

The Front Runner / by Patricia Nell WarrenI had the honor of attending one of the Stonewall Book Award ceremonies in 1996 when the ALA Annual Convention was held in New York City.

It was at that ceremony that I met the featured speaker, Patricia Nell Warren, the author of the Front Runner.

I handed her a very old, very worn, paperback copy of her book, The Front Runner, to sign and her comment was “Wow, I haven’t seen one of these in a while!” referring to the edition with the cover shown over to the left.

I told her that had enjoyed the book so much that I had kept it with me for years, through countless moves. When I found out that she was going to be speaking at ALA, I went on a frenzy of cleaning and digging through my storage unit, to find the book, so I could bring it with me and have her autograph the book for me.

She smiled and signed the book for me. It told her that I thought the book was an awesome story and share with her how when a much younger me had read the book, I was blown away by the story. It was one of those watershed moments. She responded that ….  [Read the rest of the article]

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